Sharing your home with a lazy person can be quite challenging.
They don’t mind being lazy simply because they have lived like this their whole life. Laziness is like second nature to them, and they don’t care about how they affect others around them.
Picking up after them can be really stressful, and in the long run, it will take a toll on your career.
In order to prevent this from happening, I have come up with a few ideas that will greatly benefit you in the future.
Divide the responsibilities
When an adult acts like a child you have no other choice but to divide the home responsibilities. Working 8 hours a day in the office, and then a couple extra more cleaning the mess that was created by your partner can be really harmful to your mental health.
You have to be open and direct to him that you cannot handle working and cleaning every day. If he truly cares about you, he will find a way to help you out.
You can suggest to him to cook at least 2 meals per week and clean up after his mess. Tell him that this will make you really happy. I know it doesn’t sound like much now, but this will make your partner appreciate the things that you were doing while he was lazy.
Try to change his habit of being lazy
It’s pretty difficult to live with a lazy person for the rest of your life. Imagine being next to someone that thinks he can rule the world by watching TV all day and eating burgers on the couch.
Your life would be a total mess if your partner doesn’t step-up and share the struggles with you.
In order to prevent this from happening and make your life a lot easier in the future, you have to help him overcome his laziness. I’m going to explain everything in a couple of sentences, but feel free to see my full guide on how to handle this problem.
The root of his problem is the lack of life purpose, goals, plans, and motivation. You have to assert each problem individually and try to be as supportive as you can during the process.
Lack of life purpose is the main factor that makes people lazy. You can help him find his life purpose by exploring his interests. A good way to start is to find what he likes and dislikes. Create a simple list and search for full-time jobs based on his preferences.
Help him create a list of goals he wants to achieve in the next couple of months. This list will help him find the motivation to work hard and focus on his life purpose. It’s crucial for him to understand that money shouldn’t be his primary motivation.
Communicate with your partner about this problem
Have an open talk with your partner and see why things are happening the way they are. Instead of pointing fingers at him, try to understand if he is struggling with some things that he is ashamed of saying out loud.
Everything is happening for a reason. Don’t accept the fact that he is lazy and cannot change. Everyone can change, you just have to dig a little deeper to find out what is keeping him from changing.
Automate the cleaning process with appliances
When it comes to cleaning the house, getting a helping hand from a robot can save you a lot of time and effort. These things will also prevent a lot of yelling and arguing with your partner. Nowadays, kitchen appliances are quite affordable and efficient in finishing tasks.
Who knows how many times a dishwasher and a robot vacuum cleaner have helped me take care of everything when I was having a bad day. To this day I haven’t regretted spending money on such useful things.
You can save at least 5 hours a week by using a dishwasher, robot vacuum cleaner, and a coffee maker. You can use that free time to relax or focus on your career plans.
Don’t let his actions affect you
Living with a lazy partner can sometimes make you lazy too. Probably the hardest part about living with a lazy person is staying immune to his lifestyle.
Keeping a clear vision of your plans and goals is the most important thing you should focus on. When you adapt, his behavior won’t bother you as much because you are still aiming to become what you always dreamed of.
I have been around many lazy people and so far no one has ever had any influence on me. I was resistant to their lifestyle simply because my dreams were too valuable to give up on.
