Now, most Americans know someone who still lives with their folks. Regardless, moving out allows guardians to isolate themselves from their kids. In any case, sometimes, the reason why your children are having a hard time leaving… is YOU. Parents may simply be to blame for their adult children’s failure to move out.
In case you’re considering finding tips on how to get your lazy child to move out, you’re in good company!
This post is about how to deal with lazy adult children and will include strategies for motivating kids and help them slowly step out of their comfort zone.
How long is it to be acceptable to live with your children?
It is until they are 26. After that, you’re supposed to kick them out on their own.
According to a study by Sun America Financial Network, the majority of American people said they moved with their families before age 18. But when asked if they would have preferred to move out sooner had they had the option: Forty-three percent (43%) said they would have moved out at age 16. And one-quarter said 11 was an acceptable age for leaving home.
Quite a few feel guilty about this and keep your kids around after that.
But if your child can’t take care of themselves and still live at home, it’s time to step in. If you’re going to help your lazy adult children get motivated, you have to teach them the life skills they need in order to succeed in life.
First of all, you shouldn’t assume that lazy children will change their ways once they become adults.
Think about it, lazy adults won’t live the rest of their lives as dependents. They have to learn how to become contributing members of society.
If you keep your lazy adult children around and try to motivate them, you’re essentially enabling them. As my friend Elle said, “You are just giving the lazy adult kid extra time to develop their lazy adult habits.”
And nobody can do that for your child.
You will feel guilty about this decision and become depressed too. But feeling guilt isn’t helping – it’s time to make a change in order to save your kids from a life of failure (or worse).
You believe that if they put off dealing with your children’s laziness and bad habits, these behaviors will magically disappear once the kids become adults. But this is usually not the case.
The longer you put off dealing with your children’s issues, the harder it will be when you finally do try to motivate them to change.
At what age should parents stop supporting their children?
Every family has various considerations on when their children would move out and start supporting themselves. According to an article by Money, children ought to be free by the age of 25. By the age of 30, this is when your children should know what path they should be taking.
One of the most common reasons children want to live with their parents is because they’re afraid of the uncertainty of life. They feel more secure under their parent’s wing.
As long as you give them unconditional love and support, your children won’t want to leave home and consider doing things that will make them grow.
If you have a 20-something delinquent child, I’m not sure any age qualifies as “independent.” By the time these kids are 25, they may still resemble the lazy children of the world.
It’s quite likely that your kids will act just as badly once they become adults if you allow them to live with you.
You will have to decide how much support you’re willing to give your kids as they get older – because if you do too well, they may never get motivated.
How to move them out of the house?
People have different opinions, but once a lazy adult child gets into their late 20s, their behavior should change. This is what most people think too. This is not always the case. Sometimes people need more motivation in order to get motivated.
How to deal with your lazy adult children and move them out of the house? Here are some useful tips you can follow:
1. Be sure your child gets a job. If your child is holding down a full-time job or looking for one, you don’t want to become the primary source of financial support.
2. Stick to your guns: Tell your kid that moving out is a condition of staying in the house. (Try this on them: Every time you think about them moving out, you’ll get $10,000.)
3. Be clear from the beginning what your conditions are. Don’t give in to their demands because if they keep complaining about it they will not move out at all.
4. Be a team player, but not too much: If your child knows that he can manipulate you, he’ll keep doing it.
5. Accept your limits: It’s okay to have some parental boundaries. You can’t let them live in the basement and treat you like a maid forever!
6. Have the “big talk”: Make a family meeting to discuss the adult child moving out of the house. Try this example: “Dear family, we all know that you’re ready to move out. As a family, we have decided that you should move out by the end of the year. We are excited for your growth and for every experience that designed only for you.”
7. Set firm boundaries: Make sure your child knows that he’s responsible for what happens when he leaves the house. He needs to actively pursue his own goals and he needs to take whatever steps necessary to achieve them.
If you’ve always been good parents and your children still have no motivation, don’t worry – they may not be lazy after all.
If you still don’t know what to do with your lazy adult kids, the best way is to bring them back to life. This guide will make you understand the root cause of their failure and help you solve it.
Remember – a life of dependents is not a life worth living. So don’t be afraid, help your children instead!
